Nearly two months ago I shared our story of how we sold our 1,700 square foot home to buy a 200 square foot RV. This is our dream turned reality of living minimally so we can travel full time nationally and internationally. For the past couple months we have been parked in a simple, unscenic lot as we tie up our remaining commitments and contracts in the area. This has been a good test to see how we would adjust to living small and simply. Will they be able to do it? We know many have been thinking.

The response to our plans of living small and dreaming big has been met with a variety of responses. From support, encouragement, and enthusiasm to doubt, cynicism, and even sarcasm:

"Soooo...you're going to like...live in that?"

I flash a smile that only those who dare to dream understand, and respond:

"Why, yes! Yes we are!"

The truth is, there definitely have been challenges, but not the ones many would anticipate or think. For us, downsizing brought a great wave of release; an exhale of heavy burden and responsibility. We share space quite skillfully and take pride in our tiny space which only fosters intimacy. But of course there has been stress, which takes form in the minutia of planning. The itinerary for our trip across the country this summer looks like this:

Utah, Nebraska, Illinois, Michigan, New York, Vermont, Massachusetts, Pennsylvania, North Carolina, Florida, Louisiana, Texas, New Mexico, and Colorado. That's fourteen states in just eight weeks!!! There are a lot of moving pieces to put into place and coordinate with friends, family, and work in each state as we are traveling.

Mix into the minutia of the itinerary is the continued process of tying up loose ends with our careers and relations we have built these past three years in the making. It has been an emotional process of letting go and we have been working tirelessly in the midst of it all. Sydni is giving up her career in management and the security of a consistent salary. I am releasing my place in the yoga community...my roots, my influence, and the relations I have spent years watering.

We are exchanging the safety of the known for a life of uncertainty. It doesn't take long to see how impermanent all things are and how quickly the world moves on. We have been surprised by those who have been there along the way as well as those who have not. Leaving brings out strange responses from people you love that are not always easy to interpret or understand. There is a lot of emotional processing that perhaps we weren't expecting.

Needless to say, one month in with still one month to go before setting off on our new life on the road, we needed a reminder of what we were doing and why; some confirmation of our dream to keep us excited to that finish line. Besides, we really needed to test our little house on wheels within safe distance before traveling the entire country with such little experience. So we headed to Monterey.

This small adventure was exactly the medicine we needed to come alive again and reclaim our vision. It was validation for all we dared to dream and worked so hard to achieve. Being parked in one place as we checked items off our to-do list has been emotional and exhausting. It appears by this trip that the hardest part of this living has been cutting ties and embracing the unknown despite all the planning. But once we hit the road, the living part is not only easy...it is everything and more than we hoped it would be. Even our pets were excited and relieved. Just the act of being on the road helped us reconnect with the feeling of being free...which is the entire point of this life we are choosing. Sydni got to rip off the bandaid of driving our home on wheels safely; something I already knew and had full confidence in her bad-assery. 

Side-story: I am not yet allowed to drive our RV. Perhaps it has something to do with crashing a car on top of a cluster of mailboxes when I was sixteen. But my favorite joke is to text her when she's at work with something like: "Hey! Taking the house for a spin. Be back in twenty!" I die every time. I think she's laughing, too...on the inside. 

Not only did we make it to our destination without a hitch, we set up our home up in its temporary destination in record time. It is an amazing feeling to know that you have everything you need and that your back yard can be anywhere at anytime you decide. 

California has some of the most magnificent coastlines. Most of my fondest memories of Sydni and me have been our impromptu roadtrips overlooking the sea. For both of us, it is our way to reconnect, be present, and release. We relished in the calm pace of our days. Early morning practice followed by leisurely breakfasts. Long walks along the coastline, quiet conversation, campfires, and slow cooked dinners. This was our opportunity to simply BE without timelines, commitments, stress, or worry. Every moment we spend this way validates the way of life we are choosing. 

Of equal fondness, ironically, was our trip back. Because we had our house on wheels, we were not in any hurry. We pulled over every chance we could get to take in another majestic view...to breathe in the fresh air again, and again. Each beach along the way embodied a different character or story.

At one location, it was cold and windy, so we parked right up to the beachline and watched the kiteboarders dance across the waves with their parachutes billowing in the sky. We sat at our diningroom table and enjoyed a leisurely lunch with views of blue sea and sky; taking the crisp breeze blowing through.

​Afterward, we laid down for a little rest before our journey would commence. From the vantagepoint of our bed it looked as though we were floating in the sea. Truly we feel we are living the dream. This life is meant for living...experiencing...surrendering...and enjoying all its wonderous offerings. And though we may face a million unknowns and a lot less security, we know that we are living our life fully and together in a way that holds great value and meaning. 

The countdown is now just over a week before we set off across the country. We are ready. The road is calling. We are eager to create new experiences and memories; to explore new opportunities. We know there will be challenges along the way. Not everything will go smoothly.

​Sydni and I have shared more memories in the past year and a half than most people experience in a lifetime. We have demonstrated our resiliency. I am eager to experience all this life has to offer with her by my side. That is truly more than I could have ever hoped or dreamed. 

I will be documenting our travels along the way...as well as exciting projects I will soon be announcing. Coming to a state or city near you...stay tuned. Namaste~ 

Many of you have been following our story in our quest of what I fondly called, “Hoping to be Homeless.” Nine months later, we have sold our house and achieved our dream! We spent the last several months conceptualizing, visualizing, and downsizing in preparation for this dream-turned-reality of seeing and experiencing the world while living minimally.

Now, we proudly present that we are “Happily Homeless.” If you want to know how we downsized our life from 1,700 square feet to just 200 square feet and put thousands of dollars a month back in our savings, keep reading...

We have been raised on this Western ideology of “bigger is better” and “quantity over quality.” The more money we make, the more we spend. The more we have, the more we want and we begin accumulating "things" at such an alarming rate, that we can't even itemize everything we own. We are hamsters on the wheel of consumption and excess, which only seem to spin us into greater depths of dissatisfaction, stress, and debt. We become pinned underneath our financial commitments and find ourselves losing our deepest passions and interests.

Yogic philosophy teaches us the moral restraint (yama) of what is known as aparigraha, or non-possessiveness. In yoga we learn to embrace simplicity and efficiency, understanding that all attachments lead to suffering. My first experience and taste of this dream came in 2007 when I traveled North India to work with women and children living in poverty. The impact was two-fold:

To witness children playing in the trash or sent out to the streets to earn money for their families to eat delivers an embarrassing confrontation of every dime you have wasted and every moment you experienced self-pity in the belief that whatever you had was not enough.

Secondly, comes the realization of how little provisions you need to truly be happy...and that living with minimal necessities out of a backpack is truly liberating. Letting go of material possessions frees you to experience the whole world without the chains of debt and financial responsibility. That experience changed my thinking and for years I have longed to move closer to that kind of living.

Sydni and I had both moved to California seeking some form of the American dream. California is rich with rolling vineyards and majestic coastlines. We are verily spoiled with incredible food and an endless calendar of events from which to choose. The problem is, most the time you don't have the time or you can’t afford to. Next thing you know, you find yourself working day and night to maintain a life you cannot maintain or enjoy. The expenses mount and you’re conflicted inside and out with what society defines as happiness and success.

Our decision to downsize to a 200 square foot RV is one of living mindfully, consciously, and FULLY in the present...no strings. No attachments...and no guarantees. It means that every decision we make has great impact and meaning. It means that we have less responsibility...but also less security. We inherit a life of risk and uncertainty...but that lifestyle is ours for the choosing.

Everything we purchase must live in harmony in our small space. There is no room to negotiate. Living small means practicing patience and courtesy to share the same space with ease. Lastly, it means practicing grace in the face of all life’s unexpected moments: the things that open our eyes, challenge our perceptions, and break our hearts in exchange for living and loving boldly. We are under no illusion that everything will go our way. Some things will work and some things won't. But we are prepared to skin our knees and learn from those falls because life is short and the world is not small. We are hungry to experience everything this journey has to offer.

So we sold the house and our two vehicles to get a 24' RV and a smaller car for towing. In the act of downsizing we cut our monthly expenses by more than half, saving approximately $2,500 monthly. These decisions alone pared our loan debt down from over $450,000 to under $60,000! Now instead of paying for a house we’re never home to enjoy, we can see the world that many only see on their iPhones and flatscreens. Now, we can spend our money on living versus working to pay off the insurmountable debts we were accruing.

The added incentive of purchasing this tiny space was not just to open up travel in this country, but also internationally. This decision enables us to store our home on wheels easily while we are globetrotting, or to rent it to those who wish to sample a little of what a minimalist life has to offer.

For now, we remain in the Napa Valley while we finish our commitments and contracts locally. In July we will embark on our first tour across country, which will allow us to connect with friends and family while I am teaching. For Sydni, this will be a first opportunity to breathe after years of hard work and overachieving. She can finally take the time to explore what she really wants and needs; her own wishes, and dreams. She has innumerable talents and skills from business, to cooking, art, yoga, and photography. I cannot wait to see her spread her wings; to live freely and joyfully. As for me, I have always had a need to live my life creatively and I look forward to where ANANTA will take me as well as the ways it will open up new options and opportunities. To share my love of yoga through teaching is such a gift to me, but equally important is to continue studying. I am the best version of myself when I am both student and teacher equally. So I have mapped out many of the teachers I respect and admire to add to our summer itinerary. Truly, I feel that we are living a dream.

For those of you here in California, this is not goodbye forever. My students and relationships I have forged these past few years hold great value to me, and my Ashtanga community are like family. We will return in September and there on periodically to reconnect, offer workshops and trainings, and for me to continue my ongoing ashtanga practice under the guidance of my teacher, Kory.

Lastly, as most of you may have heard— this national road trip is just the beginning! October 20-27th we will be jetting off to exotic Thailand to lead a week long retreat and other offerings! We are excited to explore the jewels of Southeast Asia while teaching. If you haven’t looked, you simply must take a peek at this incredible 5-star resort and its amenities.

Many more announcements and plans to come...I can't speak them all just yet because some are a surprise for Sydni. I take great pleasure in teasing her with these things. It keeps her on her toes with me;) My love...this is just the beginning...

As I gathered the pieces of my fragmented memory, evidence was revealed to me that I had been beaten senselessly and thrown through a glass-top table...all in the attempt of trying to leave an abusive relationship. My jaw was broken in three places. I had countless cut, bruises, contusions, and swelling in my brain. The man who assaulted me was also my son's karate sensei. He had infiltrated my home, my work, and all of my relations. I went from a strong, smart, independent woman, to a shell of a human being.

My recovery has been long and arduous, but strangely worth all the suffering. From that experience, I was able to utilize my testimony for advocacy. I developed programs, ran hotlines, and hosted events to raise education, awareness, and financing in the campaign against domestic violence. I published articles, books, and hosted events on local television and radio. I learned and taught self defense courses, mixed martial arts, and boxing. Yet, regardless of all that work and measurable healing, I have still battled for years with PTSD.

PTSD is so much different than general anxiety. PTSD takes a low level anxiety to an unbearable/unmanageable state. A trigger can make me tremble and shake, hyper ventilate, scream, cry, vomit, and be filled with fear for my life however irrational my fears may be. I may even know I have lost control but cannot stop the descent while its happening. While all my "fighting back" in form of extreme physical fitness, self-defense, and boxing temporarily empowered me...it never gave me peace. I was always on guard and amplified. It is yoga that helps me attain peace inside where my triggers begin to subside. Yoga helps me to see that I have nothing left to prove. I am safe. I am free.

Kory has witnessed my "exorcisms" on my mat many times over the past two years of my practicing. I have come a long, long way. Inversions and heart openers are the hardest for me. They leave me vulnerable and I sweat profusely. My nervous system shatters under the pressure of my PTSD. I tremble, shake, and sob sometimes uncontrollably. But Ashtanga takes me as I am. It waits for my body to cooperate with me. This is my self-study. I knew I was in for a long road ahead when Kory gifted me with Pincha Mayurasana (peacock pose) in the Ashtanga Second Series. Pincha Mayurasana is an inversion which the body bows back like a feather in the breeze. For me, this is an unstable/unsafe/vulnerable expression for me. I am always wary of anything where I could be flipped over and smash my face or my neck. I protect myself from reliving the event of being thrown through glass, which is what these poses trigger in me.

How serendipitous that Kory arranged for Tim Feldman to visit our shala and yoga community. I knew I must meet the man that inspired me to become an ashtangi. I can barely convey the meaning and the healing that came through Tim Feldman the very first day of his stay. When I got to Pincha Mayurasana, I started trembling. I shared with Tim in brief my story. The compassion and tenderness he took to guide me is one I will never forget, that I believe washed away 14 years of trauma and anxiety.

First, Tim reminded me that I needed to find the "Leila" in my asana. I knew what he meant. "Leila" in Hindu culture means, "divine play." I needed to let in the playfulness of the pose. I need to be light and free. So funny, as I say this to my students regularly, and I can apply it, with exception to my PTSD. I needed to hear it. To be given permission to use my own medicine and to honor the essence of my own name. I was not even to attempt completing the pose. I was to let the pose breathe to find its sweet center of balancing.

After playing for some time, Time stood in front of me, he guided my legs overhead and into a fall. He was teaching me how to fall to take the fear of it away. He made me do this...over, and over, and over again. But here's the magic of it: Every time I rolled up Tim was standing in front of me with an outstretched hand to pull me into the light. Over and over we did this until my trembling stopped and falling became as free as the pose was supposed to be.

You see...Tim was reprogramming my memory. In Sanskrit, this is known as a Samskara- a pattern of thought that is carved into the psyche initiated by memory (in this case, trauma), which influences your current reality. A good example, is someone who has been bit by a snake. A coiled rope in the road, or a water hose in the yard could trigger an irrational reaction based on the imprint of previous experience. Until the person learns to create new and positive images and associations, they will be subject to reliving that traumatic moment in history.

Tim explained that this samskara was like a knot in my brain. Every time he held out his hand and helped me up from the fall, he was helping me form a new association and memory. No longer was a I afraid to fall and rise from the dark tunnel to the horrifying reflection of my battered face staring back at me. Every time I flipped it was like a waterwheel washing over my brain and smoothing over the deep trenches of the loop that for 14 years had been playing. Now I fall, and I see an outstretched hand in front of me, leading me back to the light, back to the present, back to reality.

To the powers that be at Yoga Alliance that say we cannot use the word "therapy" in our yoga teaching, I strongly disagree. Yoga has been the most liberating therapeutic work I have ever received. In 10 minutes, I was able to reverse 14 years of fear and suffering. I have witnessed too many stories over the years to feel any differently. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. If you are a survivor of domestic violence, there is hope and there is healing. Click the resource, or contact me personally. I am here. I am listening.

Dear Jacob,

When I first started writing you this letter, I had no idea where you were. Last I heard from you, you had been accepted for a transfer from the Federal prison in Lompoc, CA to "final destination unknown" on the East Coast. Prison transfers are a heavily secured process. Neither inmate or family are informed of the final destination until the prisoner's transfer is complete.

The first time I went through this in September of 2016 when you were sentenced- I had no idea where you were for over a month. I will never forget how terrifying it was to have you taken away...just like that. As a mother, to be denied access to any knowledge of your child's whereabouts and well-being is the worst kind of grief. I cannot imagine how frightening that first transfer was for you at such a young age, having had no criminal record to make sense of this new life behind bars.

Over the past couple years since your incarceration we have gone through so many stages of grief and loss. I have come to learn that there are many things that go on behind bars that you will never be able to share with me. Things that you wouldn't dare share with me at risk of your own safety. You have had to learn entirely new survival skills upon being inducted to prison life. The Federal system that governs the external laws of crime, punishment, time served, and basic provisions. But there is also the inmate populace that governs internal politics, segregated and run by gangs subject to their own code of ethics, rights, and responsibilities.

I've gone through the shock and denial; the bargaining with God and the institution that holds you thinking I could summon the magic as a mother to have you set free. Couldn't I just talk to someone to reverse this terrible misunderstanding? Couldn't my own good deeds supersede? What was my worth as a person if I could not save you? You see, the Federal system has no leniency. Even to dispute your sentence can set you at risk of added time or consequence of mistreatment within your facility.

I've had to come to terms with my own powerlessness- not just to reverse time, but that I am powerless over the fact that the punishment doesn't fit the crime.  I suffer knowing the horror that you are convicted amongst child rapists, pedophiles, drug lords, and violent criminals. I struggle to understand the sense of it...knowing you were the youngest inmate there with the least record. I have suffered witnessing changes in you that you have adopted in order to survive. I have vacillated between being too hopeful and not enough; too involved and not enough; too parental and not enough. I am so sorry for all the ways I have fallen short in trying to navigate these uncharted waters.

I fell hard and picked myself back up again many times since your incarceration vacillating between magical thinking that I could get you out, and then shaken awake to my own powerlessness to save you. My powerlessness to save you only made me spiral all the more. In kicked the guilt and shame. All of this must have been my fault. I made you, and you are a reflection of me. I failed. I wanted to punish myself for failing you as a mother. I made lists of my failings. I didn't want to go out to eat because you couldn't go out to eat. I didn't want to see a movie because you couldn't go to the movies. I didn't want to buy new shoes, because you couldn't buy new shoes. In my mind, any expression of joy, peace, or happiness was quickly extinguished by guilt that I didn't deserve it and needed to be suffering with you.

Under the stress of it all on both of us, we began to grow apart for a time. I have grieved your innocence as much as your crime as you have wrestled how to survive. I missed my little boy. I always said you made being a mother easy. Even for all the years it was just you and me, you were so easy. So sweet. So kind. I know you're still there inside. I pray the system doesn't steal any more of your innate goodness. I love you. I will always love you. I cannot imagine what it is like for you to try to adjust, absorb, and fit in to this new culture to survive it. It breaks my heart that you are not even free to express openly and honestly what you need without consequence. I am so sorry...

For so long, I know I have had a limited view of what is going on with you. I was determined to get information on the inside. There must be a way I could better understand your world. And as my best friend, Jess reminded me, I have always done my best when I am able to participate in some kind of advocacy. When you were first incarcerated, I had heard of yoga being offered in prisons. I quickly wrote to several institutions and got shut down every time. Finally, I found the Prison Yoga Project. I was so excited to register for this training, hoping I could get a better foothold and understanding in your world. I completed that training on August 19, 2018.

Many of the people that attended the training where yoga professionals who also were clinical counselors, psychologists, and social workers. Myself and Riley were one of the few who actually had loved ones in the system. So this was a very emotional training for both of us. It is amazing how the universe gifts us with exactly what we need at the moment when we can't think of anything else. I had tried everything with my own will to reach you and felt like I was failing. But no sooner did I enter that training, that I was flooded with so much love and sentiment. I got to meet one of the prisoners, Stephan who had gone through the Prison Yoga Project with James Fox while he was incarcerated. He recounted the difference it made for him and continues to make for him in the years he has been released on parole. I was so moved by his testimony that I ran after him as he left and held on to him sobbing and sobbing...wishing it was you...and feeling as though somehow it was...that I was transferring that energy to you.

The most beautiful part of that moment, was that this reformed prisoner who endured 30+ years of incarceration and all the horrors that go with that time...that prisoner held space for me, Jacob. He held me strong knowing I was a mother in pain for my son. In that moment, I felt so much hope. A viable connection. I now have a way to the inside. Jacob, I love you and I will never give up on you. You can push me away, turn me away, or try to protect me from the difficult truths, but I will always come for you. There is nothing and no one in this world that can keep me from you. I am your mother every day.

No sooner had I graduated the program, that you reached out to me to let me know you are safe in Oklahoma for the time-being. We have had a few of the best phone calls we have had since your sentencing and we have been writing every day. Thank you so much for letting me in again. All my work in this world means nothing without you. I have been meditating every day for a window of understanding between us again, and I feel that we have reached that new understanding. I am hopeful for you and for us.

While much of the information confirmed some of my worst fears, at least I was able to hear it from a reliable source. At least now, I feel like I know as best as I can, and given the information I have, I can now communicate more effectively with you. There are proactive things I can do. There is so, so much more I want to share about all that I have learned, but it has taken me two weeks to write out this part now because I am still so emotional about what it means to me. I will write much more on this as events further develop of how I can utilize this training to serve you and others like you that are incarcerated. I long to serve to offer an outlet of hope in yourselves and humanity; to offer coping strategies for navigating life behind bars as well as back into reality.

James Fox, founded the Prison Yoga Project in 2002. He is an incredible man who is highly regarded in the system as a true advocate for the incarcerated. He believes in servitude and is wholehearted and as genuine as I have seen with his work in prisons. It is my hope that I can put you in touch with him personally as well as some of the inmates who have since been released that participated in the program.  I felt so flooded and inspired by James Fox's initiative and the personal testimonies, that I immediately approached him with the idea to start a scholarship in your name under my school, ANANTA Yoga Without Limit to help certify paroled inmates to teach yoga and pass on the gifts they once received. This is my continued act of love to you. I will continue to champion your cause and your name.

As I always say from the children's book I used to read you as a little boy:

"I'll love you forever. I'll like you for always. Forever and always, my baby you'll be."